There’s no guide for how to be the best parent possible. It’s something that we have to continually keep an eye on, adapt, and question. Yet while there’s no secret formula that’ll ensure an easy-going relationship between you and your child, and put them on a clear pathway to success, there is something you can do, all of the time: do right by your child. By following a few simple rules, you’ll be on your way to, at least, meeting the basics that parenthood demands. We take a look at them below.
Be the Best You
Many parents make their children their priority. And that is the right way to go. However, some people get confused as to what this should look like. The idea isn’t to give your energy and resources and time to your son or daughter; it’s to ensure that you are the best version of yourself. It might sound selfish on the surface, but it’s not -- you’re doing it for them. A person who is getting enough exercise, eating well and being all-around happy will be able to do more for their child than someone who’s constantly on the edge of a breakdown because they’re not looking after themselves.
Unconditional Support
You might have your own hopes and dreams for your child, but let’s not forget that it’s not your life -- it’s theirs. There have been many successful people who have complicated relationships with their parents because they initially disapproved of the path they were taking. Don’t follow their example. Instead, focus on offering unconditional support for whatever they want to do. It’s really special when someone figures out their passion (most people don’t). Celebrate this happy twist of fate by being there for them, encouraging them to continue, and so on.
Ready to Fight
You’d like to think that life will be smooth for your child. Alas, life is very rarely smooth, and even if they’re not involved directly, there’s always a chance they’ll get caught up in the crosshairs. When something comes up that threatens the happiness and prospects of your child, then you have to be willing to fight. This could mean fighting to change custody orders, or get them into the best school, or protecting them from harmful forces (such as bullies). You’re not just your child’s nurturer -- you’re also his or her protector, too.
Challenge Yourself
Parenting takes you out of your comfort zone in more ways than one. For the good of your child, it’s worthwhile pushing yourself to do more, if you know that it’ll have a positive impact on your son or daughter. For example, talking to other parents, and building a friendship group.
Bring the Love
Finally, make sure you’re bringing all the love! For there really is no substitute. It would be better to be in a small home that’s brimming with emotional warmth, than a mansion where love is in short supply. If you know how to make your child feel loved, then you’ll be more than halfway there.
